Nick Cave’s son died in 2015 after falling from a cliff in Brighton, England. (Supplied: Instagram)
Nick Cave has shared an emotional open letter to a fan, talking about the death of his son Arthur in an emotional contemplation on grief, love and spirit.
Cave, the frontman of Australian band Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, shared the letter on his website The Red Hand Files, which he uses to communicate with his fans.
In the letter, which responded to a fan’s question about dealing with the death of her father, sister and first love, Cave referenced Arthur’s death in 2015, when he fell from a cliff in Brighton, England.
In her letter, the fan said: “… [I] feel that I have some communication with them, mostly through dreams”, before asking if Cave felt Arthur was still communicating with him.
Cave thanked the fan for her “beautiful question”, saying he did feel his son’s presence all the time.
“I feel the presence of my son, all around, but he may not be there. I hear him talk to me, parent me, guide me, though he may not be there.
“He visits Susie in her sleep regularly, speaks to her, comforts her, but he may not be there. Dread grief trails bright phantoms in its wake.”
Cave said grief was the price for love, and that the two are “forever intertwined”.
Nick Cave said in his letter that grief and love are “forever intertwined”. (Supplied: Nikolitsa Boutieros)
“It seems to me, that if we love, we grieve. That’s the deal. That’s the pact,” he wrote.
“Grief is the terrible reminder of the depths of our love and, like love, grief is non-negotiable.”
He said the voices we hear from the dead are willed into existence by our imaginations, which become “spirit guides” that lead mourners out of a dark place.
“We are tiny, trembling clusters of atoms subsumed within grief’s awesome presence. It occupies the core of our being and extends through our fingers to the limits of the universe.
“Within that whirling gyre all manner of madnesses exist; ghosts and spirits and dream visitations, and everything else that we, in our anguish, will into existence.
“These are precious gifts that are as valid and as real as we need them to be. They are the spirit guides that lead us out of the darkness.”
In September, Cave and his Bad Seeds mourned the death of bandmate Conway Savage, who died aged 58.